Stop Complaining: How to live harmoniously at work?

updated the 12 June 2014 à 21:17

Here are some tips for a better grasp of working life, in the midst of all the stress and incivility.

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What are our motives for stress at work anyway? In addition to delays and your colleagues’ cigarette breaks when you do not even smoke, it is the absence of motivation that exasperates. “The workplace is often the scene of inconsistencies that ultimately get on the nerves,” says personal development trainer Christine Lewicki. “The sick colleague who has no replacement, favouritism, decisions that are taken before being consulted… If this is the case in many businesses, it is even more particularly so in large organizations, where employees do not have direct access to their superiors.” Hence our exasperation – it is humiliating to feel a victim of this great comedy. No wonder we spend our time gossiping at the coffee machine…

What are the risks?
Besides the stress that these situations generate, the main danger is the demotivation. We get up on Monday, wishing it were Friday… The solutions: first, decide that you can no longer be satisfied with this situation. Even if 41% of us still feel that they will be passed for fools if they are too kind, refuse the bad cop game. React…but how? First, by recognizing that though it is impossible to change others, we can change ourselves. It is often assumed, for example, if the difficulties are exaggerated, it will be easier to get what you want.

This may work in the short term, but it is never an effective long-term approach. Over time, it almost always generates a lack of respect or a source of distancing among others. Similarly, we often tend to be in bad faith in our whining and end up exaggerating. Therefore, make it a point to recount events in their proper proportions. “As a result of this, we end up believing what we say – that people are stupid, the world is unfair, our efforts are never rewarded. It is therefore important to “reprogram” the way we choose to communicate.

By changing our reflexes, we gradually change our thoughts and feelings,” says Christine Lewicki. To avoid temper tantrums, it is also as important not to suppress your frustration. Be vigilant as to when the pressure rises. Set limits, express your needs to your supervisor, learn how to say no, ask for help…

Our report on living without complaint:

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Stephanie Torre


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