{"id":338946,"date":"2015-09-26T10:44:16","date_gmt":"2015-09-26T02:44:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mariefranceasia.com\/uncategorized-hk\/surrounded-toxic-personalities-338946.html"},"modified":"2019-05-03T15:54:40","modified_gmt":"2019-05-03T07:54:40","slug":"surrounded-toxic-personalities","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mariefranceasia.com\/hk\/galerie\/surrounded-toxic-personalities-338946.html","title":{"rendered":"Are you surrounded by toxic personalities?"},"content":{"rendered":" <p>Much has been said in recent years about narcissistic perverts and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.mariefranceasia.com\/lifelove\/coaching-lifelove\/psychology\/read-minds-others-116241.html\">manipulators<\/a>. In his book <em>Be Solar!<\/em>*, psychologist and philosopher Ariane Bilheran goes above and beyond to help us identify toxic personalities around us. You know, the ones who pump us of all our energy, who envy us or take us into their deep thoughts. In contrast, solar people\u00a0do us good with\u00a0their presence. Attracting the wrong crowd? Start to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.mariefranceasia.com\/lifelove\/expert-advice\/breaking-free-from-emotional-prison-95492.html\">clean up your\u00a0relationships<\/a> and work on yourself to find a new balance.<\/p> <h2> <span>FIND INNER HARMONY<\/span> <\/h2> <p>The right attitudes to adopt? <a href=\"http:\/\/www.mariefranceasia.com\/lifelove\/coaching-lifelove\/separation-saved-relationship-62181.html#post-62181\">Dispose of loyalties<\/a> that plague you and no longer seek to do good to one another at all costs, growing without fear of upsetting, connecting more to our souls... \"Think of restoring value to your time, your time in life,\" adds Ariane Bilheran. \"Systematically contemplate the path you want to pursue\u00a0rather than lamenting on thorns and brambles.\"<\/p> <p>*<em>Be solar! <\/em><em>And free yourself of toxic personalities, by Ariane Bilheran, Payot.<\/em><\/p> <p><em>Fabienne Broucaret and Nur Syazana H.<\/em><\/p> ","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Toxic personalities cannot be reduced to handlers and other narcissistic perverts. 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