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Julie, 42, married<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cI am a fussy person and I like that everything in my life is tidy. Nevertheless, until I turned 40 years old, a part of me remained hidden. As a teenager, I suffered from terrible stomachaches, followed by problems with\u00a0alcohol<\/a> and bulimia-anorexia. Nobody knew; neither my friends nor my husband. I felt like I was split in two. When I became a mother, at 31, I finally accepted my femininity and my need to self-harm disappeared. For four years, I believed that I was finally free. I had my little life, a husband that I loved and who accepted my frigidity. But I experienced passion and orgasm with a lover. Once again, I became obsessive: I made non-stop love, I did not recognise myself. I lost my husband<\/a>, my lover and my reason. The psychologist I consulted at this time admitted me to a psychiatric hospital before my dark side proved fatal. This stay of two months was the turning point for me. I understood that I did not have to be ashamed of who I was; I was not abnormal. My excessive behaviour was a symptom of what I refused to see: my need for immoderation.<\/p>

I was raised by labour parents, who were very pious and closed to any dialogue. In their plan, the woman<\/a> must be discreet, helpful and submissive. Sex was taboo, which fostered resentment and frustration in me. I have reconciled with my husband but I remain blocked on sexual matters, despite consultations with a sex therapist. Then, rather than burying my urges, I disconnect my brain and quench my fantasies in libertine clubs. When I had the strength to take this initiative, I saved myself and regained control over my life. I only go there once or twice a year now, as if to recognise that my dark side calmed me down. I also managed to channel a part of this energy by embracing beautiful sport challenges. I know that this balance is fragile and I aim to be less extreme, but for now, these libertine evenings are a part of my path. I have a lot of guilt and regret about my chaotic background, but I have never felt as serene as I do today.\u201d<\/p>

Marie Le Marois<\/em><\/p>

Read more:<\/span> <\/h2>

Dark Side: \u201cAnger is an integral part of my identity\u201d<\/a><\/p>

Dark Side: \u201cI maintain secrets and romantic correspondences.\u201d<\/a><\/p>

How to tame our dark side?<\/a><\/p> ","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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