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\u201cWhen I became a widow.\u201d<\/span> <\/h2>

Sophie, 44, sale representative, widow, two children.<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cWhen I became a widow at 40 years old, I had to grow up. Especially as my husband had committed a suicide. Previously, I felt incapable of being anything other than an affectionate housewife and mother. I believed everything my husband said; I followed him blindly and lived outside of reality. In fact, I reproduced the model of my mother and recently I understood that I had tried to replace my father, who died when I was 20 years old, by marrying my husband at 25 years old. Overnight, I had to work and take care of my children\u2019s education. This situation\u00a0<\/a>revealed who I am; a belligerent woman. I still do not feel\u00a0completely self confident, but I no longer need someone to lead me, which is already an enormous strep. I do things that please me, for myself. I really became an adult one year ago when my anger subsided, against him and myself. But, as my daughter says, I am not sure of being completely an adult. At 17 years old, my daughter is very reasonable and I always over indulge in things that are bad for me. When I go out, I drink <\/a>and smoke too much. In a way, I am a joyful widow who dances and laughs! I try to keep this light attitude as it is part of my personality.\u201d<\/p>

\u201cThe death of my mother.\u201d<\/span> <\/h2>

Mayeule, 42, teacher, married, two children.<\/strong><\/p>

\u201cThe turning point was the death of my mom. I understood that we should realise our dreams before it is too late. Two months ago, I gave up my hospital practitioner job to become a primary school teacher and live in the mountains. I feel like she encourages me and accompanies me in this way. I do not know if this is 'being an adult', but I feel like I have grown up. I do what I want, what I believe: a simple life in the nature, a life without career<\/a> or social ambition and that is by working for me, my children, my husband, my house. My only ambition is to take life as it comes. I always thought that, but now I apply it for real. I feel that my existence is no longer dictated by a plan. I claim nothing and I have nothing to prove to anybody. It gives me a feeling of intense peace.\u201d<\/p>

Marie Le Marois<\/em><\/p>

Read more from our 'Being an adult' set:<\/span> <\/h2>

Testimony: When did we become adults?<\/a><\/p>

Testimony: How we felt becoming an adult?<\/a><\/p>

Being an adult: A lifelong changing state
<\/a><\/p>

Growing up: What does it mean to be an adult?<\/a><\/p> ","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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