{"id":343113,"date":"2014-12-07T12:02:10","date_gmt":"2014-12-07T04:02:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mariefranceasia.com\/uncategorized-hk\/rupture-je-pensais-secretement-quil-pourrait-supporter-343113.html"},"modified":"2014-12-07T12:02:10","modified_gmt":"2014-12-07T04:02:10","slug":"rupture-je-pensais-secretement-quil-pourrait-supporter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mariefranceasia.com\/hk\/lifelove-hk\/coaching-lifelove-hk\/rupture-je-pensais-secretement-quil-pourrait-supporter-343113.html","title":{"rendered":"Breaking up: \"I secretly thought that he could bear everything\""},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"When he announced to me that he was going to leave home, rent\u00a0a studio and take care of our daughters part-time, I collapsed. For 10 years, I gave him everything. Now that he had a job, he wanted his independence and dropped me. As a matter of fact, he had taken advantage of me. A long period of therapy<\/a> enabled me to understand that I had been rather bossy and stifling all these years, and that pushed him towards the breakup. I should have seen it coming. I had only reproaches and orders for him, and thought secretly that he could bear everything. My parents gave me this model of a relationship<\/a>; \"Neither with you nor without you\". If I suffered so much from this breakup, it is as well because it frightened me. I preferred to stay with a man with whom I didn't get along, in order to maintain the image of a married woman<\/a>, rather than facing solitude. Today, I focus more on understanding the relationship than on the capacity of the couple to last.\"<\/p>

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Read more in\u00a0our \"breakup\" report:<\/span> <\/h2>

Breaking up: Dumped without warning<\/a>
Breaking up: \"A friend opened my eyes\"<\/a>
Breaking up: \"Our lives drifted apart without me noticing\"<\/a><\/p>

Val\u00e9rie Rodrigue<\/em><\/p>

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