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Charlotte, 36 years<\/em><\/strong><\/span> <\/h5>

\u201cOddly enough, this is the one thing I am most proud of in my life.\u00a0However, at the time, it killed me.\u00a0I remember very well, we were in a restaurant <\/a>and suddenly the question popped up in my mind: I put down my fork, I looked right into his eyes, and I asked him: \u201cDo you love me?\u201d\u00a0He was embarrassed, I think he strongly sensed my determination, and he tried to trick me by responding with a \u201cWhat do you mean by love?\u201d<\/p>

It was at this point that I went at it like clockwork: \u201cWhat the entire world understands it means!\u201d He replied, saying \u201cI am good with you.\u201d It had been eight months that I had been hearing the same things \u2013 \u201cWe are okay as we are\u201d, \u201cLet\u2019s not take it to heart\u201d \u2013 and I was frustrated, I suffered, because I loved him<\/a>.\u00a0I know that the stories take place as a couple, but that was how it was, I was madly in love<\/a> with a double-minded man, the kind that does not want to commit.\u00a0Needless to say, it was hell for each other.\u00a0I do not know where I got the courage to face him that night, but I ended it right there.\u00a0I no longer wanted it.\u00a0Before that, I reassured myself by thinking about the good times we had had, because there were a lot of those, and persuading myself that things would change.\u00a0But that night, I told myself it was now or never.\u00a0And I stuck to it, because as leaving the restaurant he declared: \"Wait, I think I am making bullshit of my life.\u201d Except that it was not what I wanted to hear.<\/p>

Today, I realized that this man was incapable of expressing his feelings<\/a>, or even being aware of them. But I am no therapist.\u00a0I cried for days and days, but what liberation!\u00a0It took me some time before I was able to begin a new story.\u00a0I met Mathias a year ago, and then, thanks to the Undecided One, I can now fully enjoy every day being with a loving man<\/a> that I love.\u201d<\/p>

Continue reading our report \"Ending a relationship:\u00a0\"I love him but I'm leaving him\"<\/a>:<\/strong><\/span> <\/h4>

Testimony: \u201cI broke up because of my love for him and for life<\/a>\u201d
Testimony: \u201cI left out of pride\u201d<\/a>
Testimony: \u201cMy decision was good for both of us\u201d<\/a>
Psychologist opinion: \u201cIn a relationship, you must prioritise yourself first\u201d<\/a><\/p>

Louise\u00a0<\/span>ENRIQUEZ<\/em><\/p> ","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Every day, you are faced with a man who does not reveal his feelings, who is too introverted...and because of that, you decide to leave. 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