Couples: We don't have the same sex drive
Spice things up by taking a vacation or changing sexual location.
What to do when you want to do it three times a week and he wants it just twice a month (or vice versa)?
This is a common phenomenon. We speak about Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) only when the frequency is limited to two or three incidences of sexual intercourse a month and when the situation continues beyond six months, without dreaming about another partner. On average, men have desires more frequently than women because women are subjected to hormonal variations. But some factors can reduce the male desire (depression, sickness and tiredness about traffic jams), whereas women (except in case of synthetic hormones) can have their desire intact from January till December. HSDD concerns 30 to 40% of women and 5 to 10% of men. Without HSDD, 25% of men feel they don’t see enough sexual desire in their partner’s eyes.
The advice: waiting for your spouse on the bed by tapping on the pillow is not a good idea. It sounds like a 'Bailiff’s report'. Nevertheless, it is a fact that quantity is as important as quality. The couple’s harmony feeds on intimacy and intimacy feeds on sexual intercourse. According to Pascal de Sutter, “if he wants to do it three times a week and you once, it would be better to respect the lowest frequency because pressurising the one who want less would be counterproductive. Then it is better to enjoy and be happy with once a week.”
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Valerie Rodrigue
