Couples: We don’t have the same approach
updated the 14 July 2015 à 18:32Here’s what you can do if the two do not approach sex in the same manner.
A direct or subtle approach – how to instigate your partner’s desires?
He likes the direct approach -“I want you, let’s go to bed” – with the appropriate gestures (hand on buttocks, breasts, and so on.). You would prefer a more subtle manner; for an SMS saying “See you later, light of my life”, a furtive caress of the neck, a great atmosphere, candles, a glass of wine and so on.
The advice: The advances should arouse the other’s desire. “Patience and no pressure are necessary” explains Valérie Doyen. “It is often the men who dash off the advances, because their desires are linked less to the environment and atmosphere”, states Pascal de Sutter. But this can also concern some women. Yet, with a partner who is looking for subtlety, it is better to vary the approaches, to alternate the direct and indirect methods (compliments, romanticism, affectionate gestures). The goal is to find what works best for your partner.
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Valerie Rodrigue
