Psychiatrist opinion: “In a relationship, you must prioritise yourself”
Could it be that, when in a relationship, it is first necessary to think about yourself? Find out what physiotherapist Patricia Delahaie thinks.
What drives you to leave a man you love?
Patricia Delahaie: First, we must emphasize that this is a very common situation today. Many breakups occur while the feelings still exist. So, this is a difficult decision to make, but we make it anyway because the relationship does not suit us. This may be because we are suffering – like a betrayed wife who can take it no longer. Sometimes there are issues of character – stinginess or mania – or behaviour – we can leave a man who lives only for his job, or because he is addicted to video games. We realize that to be in love, love all you need – but to thrive in a relationship, it takes a lot of other things: a shared world view, agreement on daily decisions, sharing...
Do we always move towards the better?
It is difficult, but leaving a man you love is to give yourself priority, and we deserve to do that! In general, achieving this takes time, especially for women. They love to love and will try everything before they finally make the cut. It is only when they can say they have given every chance to the relationship and that nothing has changed that they leave. Simply because they want happiness. This is quite pragmatic; they know they will be happier outside of the relationship.
"So you recommend to "dare to prioritise yourself?"
Absolutely. Historically, women have been taught that they should make others happy. It is a good thing to start thinking about their own happiness. Not only is it legitimate to want to flourish, to think about yourself, but there is also a novelty today, you know you will be able to experience many love stories in life. And leaving a man is to give yourself the opportunity to meet another.
* Author of How to cure lovesickness (Leduc.s Editions).
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