You’re single, and it’s good
updated the 11 August 2015 à 17:21Being the only bachelor in your group of friends may sometimes be embarrassing…especially when they force us to act like the third wheel!
Invitations leave a good intention. The couple gladly invites you to family gatherings (like Christmas or a girlfriend’s birthday) so we don’t forget to accept graciously. That’s nice, but for the bearded ‘old aunts’ or picky eaters, it won’t end well.
For family holidays, it’s better if it’s your family. Every time you say, “I’m single,” someone might quickly find themselves in an infantile position, with thoughts similar to the line of: “Another dip in the pool? But you just had a full meal!” Or you might be used in the role of the committed babysitter: “Can you look after the little ones? We’d like to make a restaurant reservation without the kids.” And if your thing is to watch streaming movies at night and get up late, you must brave the disapproving looks. Avoid the holidays with the family of others.
Reserve your surprises at dinner parties, unless one has rung you up beforehand to avoid the famous couples table, or to ensure you make conversation with the old ex out of nowhere. Presentations will not be subtle, going a little something like, “She’s of good family, has a degree and is friends with the owner of a farm in France.” Both single. You prefer to be invited as a friend and not as a friend to be interrogated. But a single friend is scary to married women, who will think you want to wreck their household, as if there were no available men on the market. Whereas if there are plenty, you’d be labelled a bachelorette.
Valérie Rodrigue and Nur Syazana H.
