7 keys to bouncing back successfully from a failure

TAKE A BREAK

“We live in a society of immediacy,” regrets Helen Monnet, author of Bouncing after redundancy (Ed. Larousse). Now, after a failure, precipitation is always a bad adviser. This pause will be shorter or longer depending on the individual, but it is essential. Caution, because this does not mean rehashing. It means to return to devoted movement, for example, one’s leisure, family life, volunteering, etc.” 

DIGEST

It is necessary to accept what happened because we cannot change that. “Living through failure emotionally is essential,” says psychotherapist Isabelle Filliozat. “This is not to deny that it is hard or that it is sad. You should also not get caught up in depression. There is a balance to find. The important thing is to measure what we have just experienced and what we lose, as in a work of mourning.”

FIND THE CAUSE

The idea is not to flog or point fingers, but wonder how things turned the way it did. “It is necessary to make a lucid and rational analysis of the causes of failure,” says Hubert Ripoll, author of The Mental Sport (ed. Payot). “This helps to diffuse, remove the emotional component and understand why we got there.”

“If it happens again, what I would do differently? Get to the point,” said coach Helen Monnet. Ideally, leave your everyday environment to a place where you can change your point of view.Why not a country cottage or a monastery?

MAKE A WORK OF INTROSPECTION

You have not succeeded and that is a fact, but what does this teach you about yourself, your relationship to others, to your limits and your basic needs? “Failure is an experience, there is still information to be learned, including in itself,” insists Isabelle Filliozat, author of Small workbook to recover from a failure (ed. Youth). “Make a summary of resources, of your qualities and your skills,” suggests Helen Monnet. It is important to be in an introspective mood. “Meditation can help you see more clearly and refocus you, just like walking.”

WELL-SURROUNDED

“This is the time to do the sorting in your address book,” warns Helen Monnet. Stay away from people who guilt you or trick you into thinking you’re wrong. Seek comfort and softness in your loved ones, do not fold on yourself.” 

STEP BACK

“You have failed your perspective on the scale of a lifetime to put back into perspective,” advises Isabelle Filliozat. “Imagine the look you’ll be wearing in twenty years.”

GO FORWARD

How to get your failure opening doors? “Set yourself new realistic goals, be planned in time and reasonable,” advises Hubert Ripoll, psychologist and professor emeritus at the French University of Aix-Marseille. “Then, a single watchword: stick!”

Fabienne Broucaret and Nur Syazana H.

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