10 Tips and questions to ensure you choose the right partner

10 Tips & questions to ask yourself to ensure you choose the right partner

MF editorial team

27 Apr 2017

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Setting your expectations
Determine what an ideal candidate would be according to your expectations and what you like. After all, how will you find the right one if you do not know what you want? Of course, once you’ve decided on your partner’s traits and personality, don’t set this idea in stone - it’s also worth being flexible!
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Think about your goals
What are your life goals? Do you feel comfortable at this moment to be starting a long-term relationship, considering things like your financial situation, work situation, and whether you want to settle down? You need to have clear life goals if you want to be able to build something with someone.
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Learn from your mistakes
What have you learnt from your previous relationships? Here, you really need to take the time to recall your past behaviour - what worked, what didn’t work? Were there disagreements? What were the issues? How will you be able to avoid making the same mistakes again?
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Be honest, always
Would you really like to build your relationship on lies? Everything ends up on the table in the end, and if he likes you and he is considering spending his life with you, he will need to make sure you are someone he can trust.
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Who is he?
Ask your potential partner questions about his life, his ambitions, his goals, his interests. You need to know if you’re on the same wavelength. Of course, don’t bombard him with questions on your first date. Don’t make him feel like he’s being interrogated. Go easy - but make sure you’re taking down notes in your head!
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Are you accomplices?
Not accomplices of a crime, but do you have fun together? Do you share funny moments and do silly things together? Humour has its place in a relationship.
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Are you two physically attracted to each other?
Of course, physical attraction is not the only thing that counts when it comes to a loving relationship, but it isn’t to be put to the side as well, especially if you want a long-term relationship. There must be at least some attraction!
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Do they support me?
Does he motivate you? Encourage you? If your potential partner puts you down all the time and doesn’t help you get back on your feet, he may not be the lucky one. Make sure he supports you in your endeavours and pushes you to improve yourself day after day.
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Take initiatives!
You say to yourself “if he doesn’t respond to my texts or calls, I won’t make the first step either”. Stop, you are no longer a teenager! If you want something, make sure you work to get it. Take the initiative and make your own moves.
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Don’t move too fast
You get along well, you are happy, and the adventure begins. You want a relationship! Hooray! Think carefully, though. Allow yourself some time to think everything through carefully. If it is meant to be, you can afford to be patient. This way, you will be even more sure of your choice.

Making the right choice when it comes to your partner (for life) is not necessarily easy. Sometimes, you start without asking the proper questions.

If you’re still single (and even on the contrary), you might have wondered to yourself “how do I choose the right person for me?” and you might have brought it up with your closest friends that this is one difficult question to find the answer to. Well, pay attention here. Difficult does not equal impossible.

We invite you to discover our 10 tips and questions to ask yourself to be 100% sure you choose the right person you would like to be in a long-term relationship with. Of course, there are no right or wrong ways to fall in love, but some guidance never hurt anyone! Quite the opposite, actually.

Kahina Boudjidj & Angela Goh

Photos: Getty Images

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