7 Things to consider when your marriage is suffering because of your job

Is your marriage suffering because of your job? Here are 7 things to consider

Shelina Assomull

11 Feb 2018

updated the 13 February 2018 à 11:33

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Do you balance stress well together?
If you’re both stressed, it’s a recipe for a very tense environment. If you're a high stress worker, it's best your partner is more laidback side of dealing with problems to keep you guys in check together.
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Exercise together before work
Exercise is seriously a wonderful thing. We often underestimate its ability to help us, but a long jog in the morning can really do wonders to clear your mind. Take a run together. Don’t say a word, but instead just enjoy the exercise. You’ll find the feel-good endorphins buzzing, causing you both to be in a good mood - whilst also doing something productive before the workday begins.
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Do not compare your marriage to others’
Conforming to what other people seem to think your relationship should be is often the hardest, so just don’t. Just because other couples do certain things doesn’t mean that’s the right way to do it. When you think things are going well, don’t be distracted by other couples’ ‘perfect’ routine – chances are, it’s far from perfect.
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Do it even when you haven’t finished your work
Sex is not just the thing to do when you finished doing everything else. Sometimes it’s worth making it a priority so that you're able to do everything else better - and with a big smile too!
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Constantly evaluate things
Things don’t always go to plan and you’ve got to learn to be okay with that. Don’t be afraid to question where things are going, whether you really want to be doing this job or if you guys are happy. The strongest relationships come from honesty, so sit down with your partner and tell them what you think needs to change about you, them or both of you. Things are always changing, its okay if your plan does too.
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Go to bed together
When you’re both working hard you have very different routines that make it hard to catch each other. Although it’s easy to come and go and do things at the time most convenient for you, try and wait for each other to go to bed. Going to bed together, although you’re not doing anything, ensures that you see each other at the end of the day. A daily reminder of why you’re doing it.
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Learn from your mistakes
If you make a mistake, that’s fine; but don’t make the same mistake twice. Learn from your troubles and strive towards improving them. Finding your work-love balance is always going to be challenging, but you have to be prepared to take it as seriously as you would a meeting, and think about what you can improve on, based on the past. If you keep trying to do better, you’ll be getting it right in no time.

Consider these points carefully if you feel like your relationship is coming in second to your career.

Having a full time job plus maintaining a healthy relationship can be incredibly tough. Achieving your career goals often come at the expense of dinner plans, and time spent with your partner can frequently be taken up with work chat. It’s hard, but you do it. There’s nothing wrong with fighting for both, and so you should.

It can be difficult to keep both in perfect check, and you definitely won’t always have them balancing well, but when you do, it makes you realise why you strive to. When working out the perfect balance for your relationship, and your work schedule, alongside your partner’s, there are a few things you need to consider and think about it.

We’ve put together some top priorities to keep on your radar when you feel like that work-life-relationship balance is slipping.

Shelina Assomull

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