Empty Nest Syndrome? 5 Ways to let go of your growing child

thama

29 Mar 2018

updated the 31 March 2018 à 13:21

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Talk to your spouse or friend
Having a chat with your spouse (who might also be in the same boat as you), a close friend or even with your child can be a lot more beneficial than you think. If you’re afraid you’ll appear needy or over-sentimental, remember that there is nothing wrong in seeking help and that those who truly love who will always be there for you. However, if you’re spiralling down towards depression or are becoming dysfunctional, then it is time to consider professional help such as counselling or therapy.
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Accept that they are growing up
Experimenting, making mistakes and learning along the way are all part and parcel of growing up. We’re sure you know this well as an adult yourself. This doesn’t mean that you have to turn a blind eye to everything that your kids do, but instead of trying to micromanage them, put on the hat of a coach and give them choices.
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Be there for your child
Just because your teen or young adult craves for independence, it does not mean that they want to be ignored or left alone completely. One of the most important things a human being needs is the reassurance that there is someone there for them during both their highs and lows. Remind your child that you will always have their back.
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Skip the long lectures
Let’s admit it – no one wants to hear rants. If there is something your child does that bothers you and you have to get it off your chest, tell them about it briefly. Long lectures can further erode your relationship with them.
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Focus on rediscovering your life
Realise that you have more opportunity to focus on your own needs. Utilise your alone time to strengthen your marriage and to rediscover the things that you once enjoyed doing but had to put aside for the family. This could either be picking up an old hobby, going on a getaway with your spouse, meeting up with friends, or simply walking idly at the mall or park without having to worry about rushing home to tend to your kids.

They may drift away from you as they grow older and more independent – but the love and bond you share will never break.

We’re all constantly evolving and moving towards the next steps in our lives. If you look back at your own journey, you will realise that you’re no longer the person you were a decade ago. So, why should it be any different when it comes to your child?

Many of us tend to worry about our kids drifting away from us. As a parent, after all, it is only natural to feel the urge to protect your progeny, manage their life and maintain the bond you’ve had with them since their birth. But this can at times do more harm than good, especially if your child is fast growing and needs ample freedom. If you’ve ever wondered what you can do to respect your child’s privacy instead of smother them, read these five ways you can let go of your growing child.

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