Stop Complaining: How to live peacefully with your family?

There is nothing more annoying than having to deal with delays, forgetfulness and negligence of boyfriends, husbands, siblings, in-laws, children… Thus resulting our recurrent rants: “But what is this nonsense?” “I’m not your property!” “I’m sooo tiiireeeedd!”… The most depressing part of the story: “The feeling of not being respected. To suffer through life to the point that you are overwhelmed,” says personal development trainer Christine Lewicki.

Take charge, yes, but until when? What are the risks?

Becoming a domestic tyrant and seeing children drift away, your husband escaping, and others deserting you. Solutions: Why do you grumble? “To indicate that we are frustrated,” says the coach. According to her, moaning about your spouse is first for him to address a complaint: “I need recognition.” Against your children? “I need calm, and harmony. I want to feel that I have educated you.” Simply being aware can initiate change. “When we see whining as a way to ask for help without directly asking for it, you may decide otherwise. Express yourself more clearly and therefore be heard “says the specialist. For example: why you strive to grumble when nobody is going to help you clear the table anyway?

Change up your strategy. Explain your feelings and needs which are causing your frustration while remaining willing to negotiate. Honestly, it makes a difference. “Upon finishing your meal, you leave the table without help. Your behaviour offends me. If everyone made ​​the effort to just clear their plates, it would save me time and I would not have to get frustrated – it is a win-win situation.” And if they reply that the hard work will affect their digestion, do not get annoyed, in this case, they will probably clear the table and empty the dishwasher.

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Stephanie Torre