What men want: 13 details that drive him insane – in a good way
updated the 6 October 2015 à 23:59
The libido of men go in overdrive for some reasons which are obvious, and some which escape us. Our imperfections, though may frustrate us, know how to affect them in ways we do not understand… explanations on what subconsciously turns men on, from Philippe Brenot (couple therapist) and Marc Adrian (psychiatrist and psychoanalyst).
Bedhead hair:
It is useless to carefully comb your hair to look sexy. Often, men prefer it when your tousled hair makes you look as if you just tumbled out of bed. “This is because the bed is where they wish they could bring and find their women,” says Philippe Brenot, author of “Sex et l’amour” (Sex and love) (Odile Jacob). We love battled-out hair as we like to imagine the battle during sex which got it that way.”
Curves:
While we spend our time cursing our weighing scales, our partners could not care less about our hips, our saddlebags, our cellulite or our extra pounds. In the collective unconscious, curves are associated with pleasure, indulgence and a certain voluptuousness. “The body is always sexy, even if it does not meet the strict guideless of the fashion world. Curves embraced with confidence can be much more attractive than you imagine. Thin or plump, it does not really matter. To be sexy, you just need to be able to ‘put yourself in the position of an object,’” says Marc Adrian, in the sense of allowing yourself want without wanting to keep everything under control. Attention – this does not mean a submissive woman, or one that acts like a “dead fish”.
Short hair:
Of course, men love long and loose hair on a naked body, but that does not prevent them from being very titillated by a boyish haircut. “Many subconsciously seek to regain the enthusiasm of their youth with partners who remind them of their adolescence,” says Marc Adrian. “And if some turn to find it in very young women, this resonates in others in the form of hairstyles, attitudes or manner of dressing. Fashion proposes to enrich sexual fantasies. And if not boyish, the androgynous trend happens to be a hit at moment.”
A well-arched back:
We would like all our buttocks to be round, high and firm. Philippe Brenot explains the attraction they exert on our companions by a sort of instinct that goes back, again, to the animal kingdom. The female in heat tends always tends to arch her back to prepare for copulation. With humans, it also works. A well-arched back acts like a call to sex.
Luscious lips:
Papuans literally capsized before enlarged lower lips down which run a thread of saliva. “But it is true that what is attractive for some may see others indifferent to it – in fact, may even be abhorred by those from other latitudes!” commented Philippe Brenot. But in many cultures, full lips are considered to increase sex appeal, for all the promises they contain. But all lips are sexy, hence our natural instinct to play with them from time to time. “Slightly parted, a little wet, their effects are always unquestionable,” says the psychiatrist.
Underarm hair:
So used to eliminating unwanted hair, we tend to forget that not hairless armpits can have aphrodisiac virtues. “They create a strong sexual attraction for a large majority of men,” says Philippe Brenot, who recalls that the physiological function of underarm hair is to retain secretions of sex hormones. The masculine sense of smell would be stimulated by these natural fragrances. Although this is strongly shaped by culture and fashion, male sexuality remains very subconscious and instinctive.
Small breasts, confidently embraced:
We should not underestimate its erotic power. There are many men who hate big breasts. “This may be because large breasts remind them of their mothers, and it is difficult for them to be titillated by maternal attributes,” reckons Philippe Brenot.
A generous bust:
It is obvious but, sometimes, it is better to show just a little to create in men the desire to see more. Many males who appreciate large breasts say they are most sensitive to the effects of the attraction of a woman in a swimsuit, rather than breasts naked on the beach. “Shamelessness is not sexy – mystery, however, is.” says Marc Adrian.
The G-string:
The tiny piece of fabric that just peeks over one’s low waist jeans has real suggestive power. “It reminds him that that the buttocks are there, without betraying them, and symbolizes erotic availability of its owner. It hides the minimum, but it hides, nonetheless,” says Marc Adrian.
High underwear:
Your fluffy granny panties can also tickle the libido of a man without it being paedophilic or perverse. “It is just because he, too, is trying to find the passion and youthful pleasure of his adolescence,” explains Philippe Brenot.
Tapered legs:
The legs are so exciting because they lead to the pelvis, a symbolic place of delight, and also because they are topped by the buttocks. It is this suggestive power that makes legs erotic, because “it is when the object of desire is hidden that it attracts,” says Marc Adrian.
Garter belts:
“If it pleases so much, it is because it is a visible, marked trail to the woman’s privates,” reflects Philippe Brenot. Like all black or lace underpants, it plays on the contrasts between the colour of the skin and cloth and suggests, therefore, a desire that which is not seen.”
High heels:
Perched on high heels, the legs have a formidable effect. “Because the person wearing them moves up to the level of the man, as if to put her pelvis up to that of her partner, and thus promote mating,” says Philippe Brenot. Fantasies are never embarrassed by reality!
Danièle Laufer
Errrr… Sometimes. I tried garter belt but it didn’t work some reason. LMAO.
It’s ironic a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst fail to mention the single most important factor in attracting the sexual interest of men – a woman’s fire. Forget clothes and hair and physical features. What makes me want to touch a woman more than anything is the fire glowing from within her, that flame in her eyes and expression. Doesn’t matter what she’s wearing, what her hair’s like or her body.
But that requires she be possessed of fierce yet sanguine intelligence, soul and confidence, a sense of humor and a sense of fateful attraction. These things require commitment to an idea, not a hairdo, a garter or a certain kind of butt – all of this also known as “romance.”
location, spirituality, real love, bringing out the abest with meaningful conversation
compatibility, common interests, acceptance, and stroking the male ego,
giving homage to the sacred aspect of the phallus, being educated, all these are more important then the overly generalized shallow sentiments here, and men want long hair on a women, trend of no,