How to apply the 5 Love Languages of Children as a parent

How to apply the “Five Love Languages of Children” as a parent

ashley

06 Oct 2017

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Words of affirmation
You'd be truly surprised just how far a compliment would go in gaining your child's trust and respect. Seemingly trivial comments like 'You look nice today' or 'Well done' would not only boost your little one's confidence, but will also reaffirm your pride in them. Many a time, parents forget to reinforce and build their child up which is one of the key reasons behind an unconfident and insecure child.
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Quality time
We get it- after a strenuous day of work, you'd rather hit the hay than entertain your child. But would you believe that this could be detrimental to your parent-child relationship? Some children conclude that their parent's love for them, is synonymous with the amount of quality time they spend together. Evidently untrue, but nonetheless, ensure your child knows you love them by taking them on a bike ride once in a while, or even bake a cake together!
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Give gifts
This is probably every parent's nightmare, but relax- you don't have to buy out the entire toy store to affirm your connection with your little one. Handmade gifts can be just as effective than expensive store-bought ones. Remember, it's the thought that counts.
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Acts of service
From helping them out with homework, to decorating their room, a well-meant act of service does wonders in cementing the parent-child bond you so desire. These gestures will undoubtedly evoke gratitude and in turn, love from your kid.
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Physical touch
Be it a hug, kiss or pat on the shoulder, demonstrate your unwavering love for your little one with physical touch! Some children associate touch with love and respect. Believe it or not, a warm hug may just make your kid's day! However, it would be wise not to take it too far- no child likes to be excessively smothered.

Are you looking to deepen your connection with your kid?

Children are a wonderful gift; however, like many other parents, you may find it challenging at times to emotionally connect with their kids. What would seem to be a well-meant gesture of love from one could be misinterpreted as an undeserved blow to another. It would almost appear that you and your kid operate on different wavelengths.

Attitude, behaviour and development: all of this stem from the type of bond you share with your child. The advent of the wildly popular Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman in 1997 accurately illustrates the various ways to connect with your little one, based on their communication style.

If you’re looking to forge a deeper and fulfilling relationship with your child, we’ve got you covered! We’ve compiled a guide on how to best apply the five love languages as a parent above. Scroll through the gallery to find out more!

Ashley Anand

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