Love: “I broke up because of my love for him and for life”

Breakup testimony: “I broke up because of my love for him and for life”

Louise Enriquez

24 Jun 2014

mis à jour le 26 June 2014 à 13:01

Your man wants children, but you don't. You feel you have reached the point of no return. Discover the testimony of Valerie.

Valerie, 45 years

“All my friends would say: “Screw these deep, serious stories and just have fun, you will see.” I could not wait until I could see it for myself, because in my heart, I think I had somewhat written what it should be in advance. That was two years ago, so I was 43 years old, and, at a party, it was love at first sight with a man...29. We dated for a month before kissing. A month to laugh about, to say: “How unbelievable it is that such a meeting took place!” and talk, particularly about our age difference. Because the cougar trend (I hate that word), though fashionable in theory, is quite something else in real life.

There is the issue of children, for example. At the time, my daughters were 7 and 5 years old, I was divorced from their father and I was not thinking at all to have another child. At the same time, at 43 years, I did not have many years ahead of me either. And at the same time, he was at an age where everything was meant to be constructed, everything was ahead, and it was inconceivable for me to make him give up paternity.

I did not assume, I wondered if he would eventually end up blaming me. Our story lasted almost a year, and it was out of love that I left him. Love for life, love for him. It may sound ridiculous but I wanted him to meet a woman with whom he could experience this beautiful moment in life. And that is exactly what happened, he just became a father. Nothing in the world would make me regret this story, nor the fact that I ended it. This man has given me so much confidence in love...”