Sexuality: The 4 most common false beliefs
updated the 19 October 2015 à 10:42
Co-author of the book I Am Sexopositive, sex therapist Hubin Alexandra, debunks four cliches that can prevent you from having great sex.
“Beliefs sometimes lead our lives for us in our place,” says Hubin Alexandra. They often result in large affirmations such as saying, “I must”. Several researchers have also studied the subject, interviewing many women, partly on their beliefs and ideas about sexuality, and another on the way they lived. These studies show a strong correlation between sexual activity and the mental picture they have of sexuality. “In other words, what we know – or what we think we know – about sex can positively or negatively influence our sex life.”
In his book entitled I am sexopositive, the sex therapist goes through all these issues, but also discusses the benefits of sex and proposes concrete ways to great sex: getting to know her body (and that of her partner’s), manage to let go, boost her sex appeal, have fun in bed, to look sympathetically, develop a confidence in which you feel good…
“To sort out fact from fiction, there is only one thing to say: we are all different and all normal, insists Hubin Alexandra. Because yes, it is often believed that the good shots are best, that other girls have sexy underwear and are assorted daily, they want to make love incessantly, that men do not like foreplay, having delusional fantasies is scary, that your couple friends make love everywhere, all the time and especially in all positions… But this is wrong. Sexuality is not a perfect world where everyone must stand in his place at the risk of being next to the plate. When we realise that, we will feel liberated.”
Fabienne Broucaret and Nur Syazana H.
