Infidelity: Resume everyday life to save the relationship

MF editorial team

03 Nov 2014

updated the 14 July 2015 à 18:33

The everyday life can be an essential element of the reconstruction of the relationship: the embarrassment will be hidden by the usual everyday activities.

Normal everyday activities should be maintained even if the atmosphere is tense and it can seem unbearable to keep sharing the domestic and family rites (that sometimes contributed to causing the affair). But keep in mind that at this stage of your life, these rituals are essential; they allow you at the same time to focus your feelings and to hold you up in a secure environment. “Even if it is only about a temporary anchor point which must also be revalued, make the effort to reinvest your everyday life by planning pleasant activities to share together,” recommends the psychiatrist. The idea is to retain lightness. Go to the cinema, have dinner with friends, play with the children and so on.

Have a break and move from another context by inviting your close friends to join if you are still afraid of having a one-to-one dinner. “The most important thing is to say clearly to each other that you do not avoid intimacy, but that you will learn again to live pleasantly together with the help of others,” notes the psychiatrist. Dare, propose. It is the time to rebuild a new complicity.

Stephanie Torre