Infidelity: Rebuild desire after adultery

Lindsay POUI-DI

03 Nov 2014

updated the 14 July 2015 à 18:33

After an infidelity, it is difficult to recover the desire that once connected the both of you. Nevertheless, it is crucial to attain the desire for the well-being of your relationship.

Desire in the relationship is a kind of taboo question that we often don’t dare to ask about. How can we learn to love again the body of your partner when his/her body loved the body of another person? How can we re-attain the same desire? First of all, do not put too much pressure on the other one if he/she does not come towards you, gives up at the last moment or does not find any satisfaction in your intercourse. It is not dramatic. Numerous examples prove it – a couple can live without sexuality as long as it builds itself in other areas strong enough to compensate for the sexual frustrations. Then, do not be too hard with yourself, let it come naturally. Take your time. Touch each other, smile at one other, have fun with this reunion. Surprise each other. “Do you know what I want to do?” “Tell me a fantasy to see if it I share it..” “Do you know what I love about you?…”

Stephanie Torre